I took a long vacation from this blog, and a lot has happened during that time. The family situation with one aunt and uncle has calmed down. They have finally decided to leave us in peace. This wouldn’t be my aunt & uncle but my fiancé’s. Moving on.
My fiance has three other brothers and is the youngest of all of them. Two of the older ones are married, and of those two, one is married to my best friend. The latter couple is expecting a baby in March. The due date is the day before my birthday, and I’m super excited to have an astrological twin if she has the baby, a day late, on my birthday. During this time my fiance and I became engaged. Yay! Such wonderful things are happening in this family.
Enter the bad with good. The only unmarried brother happens to be dating a disaster of a girl. The disaster has become pregnant. My friend and I are torn with being excited for our brother in-law on the arrival of his first child, and utter despair as to who he is having the child with. There is a long sordid story that goes along with the disaster-girl, but I’d be better off leaving that for another post. So without much back story lets just say, she has made quite a reputation on a small island for being a liar & a manipulator. This would include our brother in-law with the manipulation. I understand that it is his life, and he is aware of the things his girlfriend is using him for, but it’s really irritating that he allows and accepts this kind of treatment. That he thinks this is what he deserves.
What is even more upsetting is I am marrying into this family, and feel like this drama will somehow consume me, my fiance, & our future children. This is a real bittersweet time in this family’s life. While I’m supposed to be on cloud nine with my engagement, wedding, and future with my fiance, I can’t escape the daily thoughts about my brother in-law and what is going on in his life. I can’t turn them off. I am constantly going back to these really angry places where disaster girl is concerned. It kills me to think about her everyday.
We as a family are trying to rally around my brother in-law to let him know, we are always there or here for him, but life is really difficult. How will the children interact with each other? Will these little cousins have a relationship, or grow up without one? There are no answers at the moment.
Everyday I try to remind myself to focus on my own life & future. I have to give myself pep talks so I don’t forget, this is supposed to be one of the happiest times in my life. I’m getting married! lol
ttfn
J.
